We all have times in our lives where we might find ourselves in a season of loneliness. You might feel like you don’t have a place, or that you don’t have a “tribe”, but as you get older and go through changes in your life these seasons of feeling a little out of place can show you so much about yourself. It can allow you to work on yourself and if you are a spiritual person it can allow God to show you new lessons and dive into His purpose for your life.
I am going to talk about some of the things I have learned and that I am still learning to embrace in a season where you feel like you are in the “space between” in adulthood.
Ever since I can remember I have felt a little out of place and haven’t really connected with many people my age and what they wanted to do in certain times in their life. When I went to college I struggled in my classes, didn’t drink or party, and just felt like I wasn’t in the right place. I decided to get married to my husband, move away from everything I have ever known and start fresh…. Talk about a lonely time.
Since my husband was in the military at the time I met a ton of people in my same situation who were all young, married, and that I could relate to. During this season of my life I finally found a group of people who understood my situation and I made some of my best friends.
But….. being a military spouse can be a very lonely lifestyle sometimes, you move around a lot, your spouse is always gone for training, deployment and can work some looong hours.
Have a Confidant
One of my biggest pieces of advice when embracing a season of loneliness is having someone to talk to who can relate to you, that you can check in with. The best friendships are the ones where you don’t talk everyday, but you know that they will be there for you whenever you need them. Whenever my husband was in the military a lot of other wives had spouses who were on the same deployments or training as my husband. Having them to talk to helped to pass the time and help to give me a little bit of company.
Start a New Hobby
If you find yourself in a lonely season in your life, reflect on your interests or something that you have always wanted to do. I LOVE watercolor paint and that is a hobby I love to do even if I’m not the best at it. Whether you like to paint, sew, read, workout, doing some gardening, finding a hobby can help to occupy your mind and give you a purpose.
Take Time To Reflect
During a time where you feel a little out of place, it is the best time to reflect on how you are feeling and maybe get into your Bible to see what this season is teaching you. Taking a step back can show you the bigger picture as cheesy as it may sound. I had to do some soul searching and realize that not always doing the “popular” thing is okay and I am right where I am supposed to be.
Do Some Self Care
Take some time for yourself during each week whether this is doing a face mask, reading your favorite book, or getting your nails done do a little something special for yourself. These seasons will come and go in life. Always remember that you have to fill up your cup before you can fill up someone elses and I think that is SUCH an important lesson.
This was a little bit of a different style blog but I think it is important to understand that we ALL go through different seasons in our lives. It is okay to be different than others and take a different path. You can’t spend your whole life comparing yours to someone else’s. Seasons of loneliness or feeling out of place can teach us so much about ourselves,and help us to be who we are meant to be.
I hope this can help you get through a season of loneliness in your life
Until the next one!
Riley Jo XOXO